‘There’ can mean different things to different people.
In Singapore to get ‘there’ could mean getting off the bus, and walking a short 50 or 100 meter to get us to our intended destination.. our ‘there’.
When I was hiking in Nepal, ‘there’ meant a drop off point at the foot of a hill, followed by another half-a-day long, tiring trek uphill to the tea house; we were not told it was a half day at ‘Sherpa speed’—steady, consistent, fast paced.
A friend shared his experience in India. A little lost, he was approached by a good samaritan who asked him if he needed help. “Where can I find a post office?” he asked. “Oh yes, It’s just there, around the corner,” the helpful strange replied with hand gestures and all.
“It’s just there”. His ‘just there around the corner’ trip turned out to be a thirty five minute walk under the hot blistering sun. Should he blame the helpful stranger?
Often we forget that our individual assumptions, “our looking glass”, or our experiences, are different from every other person around us. How many disagreements could we prevent if we approach each experience without assumptions; no “I know” mindset and no “It’s common sense” thoughts.
Wouldn’t we then be asking very relevant questions?
The Core Message: Always ask; do not assume.